Day 13: A Whole New Ass
13 is a strange number and the 13th day of this blog is as befits this number, a surreal day. This time last year a friend of mine’s father was diagnosed with cancer at the age of 63. He was told that he could be treated but that he would never be cancer free. He chose not to be dictated to by his circumstances and took on his treatment and life with gusto creating a miracle by becoming cancer free. Medical advice however was that he proceed with a bone marrow transplant, a three week process that should have seen Ken back at home with his family 2 wks ago. Unfortunately during the treatment he got an infection that his compromised immune system could not fight and he passed away last weekend leaving his family shocked and heart broken. Today I attended his funeral a celebration of his life, Ken served as a Police Community Support Officer and he was received at the chapel with a police guard of honour. We were welcomed by Neil Diamond’s Sweet Caroline, joined by Kylie Minogue and sung out by Ellie Goulding. Ken lived a happy life and was devoted to his family and community . His daughter Kelly called on us all not to compromise our lives but to honour our health and heart and do what we love now. I only met Ken twice but he made an impact, he was a joyful man with a wicked sense of humour, and every day since I heard about his passing I had thought of the unfairness of it. But life is not fair or logical.
A sombre day and not one on which I was expecting any frivolous awe inspiring moments but they do seem to turn up in the most unexpected of places. This one was in a bag of clothes I had packed away. Going through them I found this pair of combat trousers long languished. At least 5 or 6 years since they had fit. I have been making a concerted effort this year to get healthy and reveal the true me. This does mean loosing about 20kg* but my focus is on how I feel rather than a number on the weigh scales. Fitting into my adventure pants, my Indiana Jones jeans this evening with ease was a real vindication, a sense of achievement and a whole new ass. I am not at my target yet but I now know I can do it.
Ken had a dream of going on a cruise for his 65th birthday and his family want to make that happen; they want to take him on that cruise and scatter his ashes as a family. They have set up Ken’s Dream Fund asking for people to contribute money to the fund rather than buy funeral flowers. I am spurred on to reach my target before the cruise sets sail and to make a donation for each kilo that I loose. I hope Ken will get a kick out of knowing that my donation directly represents my commitment not to settle for less in my life and to stop being the victim to the way things have been for over 30 years.
* I incurred a stress fracture last year, that resulted in nearly 5 months on crutches and continuing physiotherapy. I was advised that the extra weight I carry puts undue pressure on my hip joints.
100 Days of Awe is a playful project I set up to bring my attention to awe in my daily life. I see awe as wonder, a mixture of amazement and respect. I expect the experience of awe to be about perception shifting awareness and that demands a reframing of some sort. I am excited to see what will awe me on this journey.
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